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Real Cowboys and the Shamanic Worldview

June 10, 2014 by Dede Osborn Leave a Comment

Original post; May 6, 2012

Eleven Voluntary Initiatives from Ted Turner

http://www.visionsmc.com/2011/03/25/ted-turners-voluntary-initiatives/

 By Ted Turner

1. I promise to care for Planet Earth and all living things thereon, especially my fellow human beings.

2. I promise to treat all persons everywhere with dignity, respect, and friendliness.

3. I promise to have no more than one or two children.

4. I promise to use my best efforts to help save what is left of our natural world in its undisturbed state, and to restore degraded areas.

5. I promise to use as little of our nonrenewable resources as possible.

6. I promise to minimize my use of toxic chemicals, pesticides, and other poisons, and to encourage others to do the same.

7. I promise to contribute to those less fortunate, to help them become self-sufficient and enjoy the benefits of a decent life including clean air and water, adequate food,  health care, housing, education, and individual rights.

8. I reject the use of force, in particular military force, and I support the United Nations arbitration of international disputes.

9. I support the total elimination of all nuclear, chemical, and biological weapons, and ultimately the elimination of all weapons of mass destruction.

10. I support the United Nations and its efforts to improve the condition of the planet.

11. I support renewable energy and feel we should move rapidly to contain greenhouse gases.

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Brain Freeze in the Amazon

June 10, 2014 by Dede Osborn Leave a Comment

Original post; July 30, 2012

Today, multiple realities, parallel universes and the complexities of living appear instantly at log-in.  I am fascinated, curious, and stuck in amazement and a shock of contrasts skimming the news which leaves me with the desire to reflect and make meaning for myself.  The still point between stimulus and action, the gap of conscious decision making, growing wide as the Amazon in a heart beat.  

 

First up, rebuilding Afghanistan: a reminder of the commitment to build schools and hospitals over the longer run and the time and resources required to do that.  Thomas Friedman reminded us yesterday that the real financial choice that we face very shortly is schools in Afghanistan or boomers with Alzheimer’s. And that might not be just a budgetary choice or patriotic choice.  It might be generational; investing in youth over long term nursing care of the aged.

 

Second, Uruguay’s entrepreneurial/innovative head of state has led his administration to explore building a bureaucracy to respond to the legalization of drugs; administration, warehousing, taxing, shipping, etc.  This would allow law enforcement to focus on traffickers rather than users.  As someone who has lived in ‘dry’ Kansas and whose parents used to date while bringing ‘booze’ over the bridge from Missouri to Kansas, I wonder why more of this creative thinking isn’t going on elsewhere.  Controlling is so much more effective than prohibiting anything!  Why Uruguay and not here??

 

Third, aerial snipers from drones who work from Virginia killing bad guys in Afghanistan need counselors and religious support in Virginia just as they needed it on the ground when they were hiding behind some sandy, hot wall.  But now the contrast between what they spend their days doing and the world of McDonalds and commuters that they pass on their way home (to play with their kids – which is what their targets were doing today) causes the same mind-numbing, PTSD-provoking stress.  It isn’t just the experience of a video game. [I wonder if they need to be concerned with the target becoming aware of being stared at like they do on the ground.]  Wait!  What are we doing to ourselves here??

 

And last up on my screen, The Daily Word.  Today it is Prosperity.  Focus on the world of abundance around me.  “I focus on abundant good. I think about the people I have loved, the kindnesses I have received, and the opportunities I have been given. The more I think about how prosperous I am, the more prosperous I feel. The more prosperous I feel, the more willing I am to claim the prosperity that is mine by divine birthright.”  Wait!  This is coming from another channel.  Stop.  Re-tune to thisresonance.

 

An hour later (spent crossing this Amazon) the moment of choice becomes the seduction of engaging in these different realities that pop up at a click, or focusing on my own reality of abundance and good.  It is quite comforting to remember that I can let the other bits of data, information and knowledge float in and right back out and that I don’t really need to shut the windows and doors and live in the dark.  Focus on the meaning before me.

 

Matthew Fox has a daily thought for a day in September that says that we can’t fix or even completely understand the state of the world around us and ‘besides, it is none of our business…the Captain is on the Bridge.’  So I detach myself long enough to write this and remind myself of what, and who, matters in my life, today.  But that other bubble is SO interesting….

The Dark Side

June 10, 2014 by Dede Osborn Leave a Comment

Original post: Dec. 15, 2012shapeimage_2

It occurs to me that as 12/21/12 approaches, there really is a cultural transformation playing out.  A big big transformation but also a very subtle one.  It’s been going on for a long, long time but maybe the tipping point is here.

 

When I was working in the Hawaiian Leadership Center on a program integrating Eastern, Indigenous and Western perspectives on leadership, we could pretty much recognize the ‘dark side’ of each of these cultures as cruelty in the East, exclusion in the aloha culture, and using/controlling/absorbing individualism in Western culture.  I would say that all 3 are different versions of cultures based on ‘stuff’ and grounded in separation, ‘lack and limitation.’  We are different, you and I and it is a dangerous world.  [We are born into a world with opportunities to earn and enjoy our own stuff.  I don’t share mine with you.  You make your own.  We compete for scarce stuff and I need guns to protect my stuff and protect me from you.  The planet is just a source of stuff and separate from us and exists for our use.]

 

But there is another worldview arising out of our ancient philosophical roots cloaked with the discoveries of modern science.  This lens on our reality really takes a much different perspective on how we perceive reality and our place in it.  Stuff isn’t our focus.  We are really connected, not separate.  Connected to others, connected to the planet at a spiritual level of shared consciousness.  Our planet, itself, suffers from mis-use and consequently can impact our individual psychology. [Contrast your psychological health if you work in a coal mine or commute in heavy traffic every day compared to working and living closer to nature in harmony.]  Everything I do impacts the whole; the currency is relationship and the driver is love .  It is a world of abundance not lack and we have the ultimate power to rid ourselves of the scar tissue of old thought forms and perceive our reality differently whenever we choose.  If I raise my own level of consciousness and awareness and focus on light rather than the hard-eyed world of the material, the communal level of consciousness grows.  As one Buddhist monk said, “If you want to change the world, stay in your living room and think differently.”  That may ultimately have more power to make the world a better place than we ever could have imagined.  [Think TM research with communities meditating on decreased local crime.]

 

I am blessed to be surrounded by others seeking to stay in this transformed awareness when the daily pull is back down into that dark side.  It is a daily struggle.  When school shootings happen, my first impulse is rage and to take a machine gun to the NRA glass covered headquarters out by Dulles airport.  What a great fantasy!!  My second emotion is so much sadness, and that sadness is like an electrical current that connects us at a very deep level – irrelevant of age, nationality, time or place.  The world’s deep sadness is palpable.  The agony of the world in search of the ecstasy.  Sounds familiar… ever moving toward the light.

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Leadership and Dogs

June 10, 2014 by Dede Osborn Leave a Comment

Original post; Jan. 13, 2013shapeimage_2

Having succumbed to the challenging role as mommy of a new dachshund puppy, it became obvious we could use some re-tooling of our leadership skills so we called for help.  Although I just finished training a 3 day ‘Leadership for New Managers’ workshop last week and have been a leadership trainer for 30 some years, the lessons weren’t really transferring into confidence in this situation to influence peeing and pooping!  One of the articles the trainer shared with us was “The Use of Dominance Theory in The Behavior Modification of Animals” and had a section entitled “How Leadership Differs From Dominance.”  Here I found myself right in the midst of the common discussion where leadership, behavioral psych and positive psychology intersect and carrots become so much more effective than sticks.  Yeahhhhh something I can relate to!  The conclusion is that coercion and force only get you submission in people and in animals and it has a lot of backlash built into it. So true.  Dogs respond better to reward and their ‘job’ is basically trying to please you.  [I think it was the National Geographic channel that had a program about how dogs were the most successful parasitic species of human beings.  They have adapted over the millennia to do whatever we require of them.  They are the only species to look at our right eye to read emotion, etc.]  We should build on that need to please for a well trained dog, even a challenging Doxie!  This is also true for people.  Positive feedback goes a long way.  Force and coercion, and indirectly fear, may get obedience but don’t work for long term motivation and commitment and harmonious relationships.  [However, humans are said to be the only species that will follow dysfunctional leaders, and it happens all the time–witness Congress.]  My own perspective nowadays is less on the behavioral reward system and more on the energy we project.  Animals and people sense fear, weakness, and anxiety regardless of the words you use and posture you have.  Dogs attack and people become bullies if you are weak and scared.  (Why is it we have training to stop bullying but never help the victims who are attracting the bullying – it takes two.)  Even though the Dog Whisperer does use the dominance/submission model, he also emphasizes a ‘calm and assertive energy’ which I find so lacking in organizations and so effective for people as well as dogs.  Our larger problem is that Western culture values dominance and control and some would say a built in propensity for perpetrator/victim dynamics.  Either way, a calm dog owner with a lot of carrots is more how I prefer to influence a little bundle of energy with her own needs to dominate…. I don’t think so, Flossie 🙂

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